The human body is capable of many miracles. It adapts to changes faster than we realize and is capable of healing itself as a form of self-protection.
Postpartum woes are a complex mix of physical, emotional, and behavioral changes that may happen after birth. It is easy to spot a bruise or a cut on the physical body and identify that you are hurt. You’ll naturally avoid making the pain worse. It is much harder, however, to identify the pain when it affects you mentally.
Some may have good self-awareness and is able to catch themselves from falling further. Some may only realize that their mental state needs dire help only after taking the time to process it. Some may not even have the time to process it, with trying to adapt and survive through daily routines.
Dear Mummies, If you are reading this, this is a sign for you to do a mental check on yourself. How are you feeling? How does your body feel? How are you mentally? Have you been eating well? Are you well rested?
It does not matter if you are a new mum or a mum with x number of kids. Your body has done a miraculous job in birthing a child. Give yourself some time to breathe and be there for YOU.
Here are some tips to overcome Postpartum Woes.
Communication is key. Share your feelings with your partner/ loved ones/ friends/ fellow mummies.
Chances are they want to be there for you too. Communicate what you are going through physically and emotionally. Communicate what you need help with, what they can do or should avoid doing will make things better for yourself and for them.
It is perfectly normal to feel less confident, less beautiful, less everything post pregnancy. You’ve gone through a lot to get to where you are now. You’ve done things you didn’t know you were capable of. You’re amazing for even just existing. You may not get back the self-confidence pre pregnancy. You shall exceed that confidence instead.
Find a new ground to start building up your confidence. Remind yourself constantly and daily of what you are capable of. You are strong and beyond amazing. Do what make you feel exactly that.
It may be going on a date, hitting the gym, engaging in the arts, going shopping, watching shows, going for a massage, etc. Anything that suits you. Do a bit of everything daily and watch yourself grow into the woman you’re meant to be.
3. Seek Professional Help
Do not feel shy to seek help from others if it is required. There is absolutely nothing embarrassing about getting the help you need. It is in fact very empowering to be able to do what you need to do for yourself.
Dear Mummies, embrace all the lows and the highs in this beautiful journey. Some days may be harder and darker than others. There will also be days where you would just love to repeat. Don’t give up on yourself. We are rooting for you.
Psst: If you have friends who are pregnant or have recently (or not so recently) given birth, do check on them every now and then as they probably do not have the time to even remember to check on themselves.